Saturday, September 27, 2014

Childhood Connections to Play


"It is in playing, and only in playing, that the individual child or adult is able to be creative and to use the whole personality, and it is only in being creative that the individual discovers the self."
D.W. Winnicott, British pediatrician
 
“Play energizes us and enlivens us.  It eases our burdens.  It renews our natural sense of optimism and opens up to new possibilities.”
Stuart Brown, MD
Contemporary American Psychiatrist


Growing up I felt that my parents gave me the opportunity to play during my childhood.  My parents encouraged my sisters and me to go outside and play.  My parents did not want us spending the day “vegetating” in front of the television all day.  Once outside I remember enjoying running around outside with my friends and siblings.  We would play games such as hide and seek, tag and red rover.  We would also ride our bikes up and down the neighborhood.  I remember placing cards in the spikes of the tire to make the motorcycle sound.  The only rule my parents had with us playing outside was to be in before it got dark.  My parents also encouraged us to play freely with toys like Barbie dolls and art materials.  I felt that my parents helped facilitate the importance of play growing up by ensuring we had items to use our imagination.  My mom would play along with us with our Barbie dolls and other toys.  My dad was great for taking us outside for family bike rides.  



Having the opportunity to ride outside, especially on sunny days was my favorite thing to do.  I loved being outside and exploring nature.

         
 
 


I enjoyed drawing pictures.  Especially
cartoons,.
                                                                                        
I loved barbies.  My favorite was to be mommy.



 

                                                                                               
       Play today still occurs but at a different level.  I feel that children play with items that take away their imagination.  Children are playing more with video games, tablets, and cell phones.  When I observe children in my neighborhood I do not see as many children outside riding bikes or playing outdoor games.  Granted growing up as I child I did not have access to the electronics of children today but I was encouraged by my parents to be outside to play.  I also think part of the change for encouraging children to play outside freely is due to parents feeling less secure in the child’s environment.  I feel that having the freedom to play with material that increased my imagination and physical activity helped me into my adulthood.  When I need to escape from stress I go outside for a nice bike ride.  I truly feel that I am reenergized when I come back home.  I hope is that play continues to be important in children’s development.  The tools children gain from play I feel will help them once they reach adulthood by relying on things that make them happy.

Saturday, September 13, 2014

Relationship Reflection


The relationships I have in my life are very important to me.  Family has always been an important part of my life.  I was blessed to be born as an identical twin to my sister Nicole Williams.  She was my best friend and confidant.  My relationship with her was a positive and close relationship.  We did everything together.  She was the only person who knew me inside and out.  We could tell each other anything.  Whenever I need to be distracted from life’s challenges she would through visits and late night talks.  Unfortunately my sister passed away expectantly at 30 years old during childbirth.  After her passing I couldn’t help on reflecting on what she meant to me.  I noticed that after her passing I have not been as social with other people and would like to do a better job at this.  It is important to have a relationship with someone you value as a friend.  A friend who will be there for you no matter what.



Thankfully I have my husband and partner who has been a source of constant support.  My relationship with him is valuable.  I am blessed that we have been married for 18 years.  We have grown up together and created a family of our own.  When I met my husband Darryl I enjoyed the fact the he would listen to me.  I felt comforted talking to him about anything.  He also gave me a lot of attention by making sure I remembered that I am important and to take time out for myself.  He still helps me remember this as a busy mom, educator and student.  He loves to see me happy and as his wife I want to do the same for him.  Our relationship is based on communication and remembering to take time for each other and family. 



As I mentioned from my marriage we have two wonderful boys.  They are turning into great young men.  Our oldest is 16 and the youngest is 13.  It is important for me to have a close relationship with my boys.  As they develop into their own they like to do things independently.  Whenever they ask to go somewhere I make time for them.  I enjoy spending quality time with my boys.  They may feel that I am a hovering mother sometimes but I am grateful to be their mom.  The relationship I have with my mom and dad is loving and supportive.  I want my boys to feel the same way about our relationship.  My hope for my boys is that they will also be loving and supportive with their own children.  They are definitely growing up way to fast.  After losing my sister prematurely it made me reflect on how important time is with your family.  I want my boys to know that I truly value our time together.

 


 

In my professional life I value having relationships with my coworkers that are trusting, inspiring, working as a team and providing great communication.  My job keeps me very busy daily.  It is important to be surrounded by people who can support me and others when accomplishing our daily tasks.  We are considered support staff to the director and assistant director.  We have to set an example for the teachers we work with daily.  It is important that teachers feel inspired, supported and that we are working together as a team.  We have to keep the lines of communication open daily to ensure we are all trying to accomplish the same goals of working with children.